After finishing a long-term relationship, I settled back into singledom: catching up with family and friends, doing normal things to gain more of a balance. A period followed where well meaning friends believed I should find someone new and they began setting me up with single men of their choosing. During this time I had some interesting conversations and overall dates, some good, some not so good, yet clearly not meant to be. The outcome to my friends attempts? I’ve managed to remain friends with two of my Dates which is always a positive .
I imagine there are many out there in the same boat as myself: Yes, I’m happy with my life, I’m independent, positive, yet occasionally I think it would feel more complete if I was in a relationship……..although I’m still not entirely convinced.
Certainly I do not expect to be alone when I’m old and gray, which is why I have a backup plan in place. My best friend, quite a few years younger than myself and I have decided to live together if fate deems us both to be single (way) down the track. It’s funny but he tells me “If I was straight, we’d be together now!” which is a lovely thought but is not the long term answer I need for my overall concerns about living the rest of my life single.
Recently a friend suggested online dating and my first reaction was: how desperate!
Then a bit of logic kicked in:
1. I’m not the sit-in-a-bar-nursing-a-drink-judged-to-be-desperate kind of woman, and 2. I’ve walked the blind date path and returned home empty handed.
So short of fate intervening, twelve months ago I decided to investigate the world of online dating.
My blogs are a mixture of current, ongoing and previous accounts of occurrences over the past year. To date I have had some very funny experiences together with my share of disappointing dates and conversations. It has been a very unusual and entertaining year, allowing me to gain some true friendships and intriguing experiences along the way .. I have made some mistakes, yet I am always learning and positive throughout the tapestry of life.
Stay tuned for a not-quite blow by blow (pardon the pun!) ongoing account of:
Confessions of a Mature Online Dating woman